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What if protection starts at the dinner table?

Aloha Friends, In our last email, we reflected on the quiet but powerful truth that belonging is often formed in the smallest of moments, not usually in the grand or dramatic, but in the ordinary places where love becomes tangible through presence, attentiveness, and being truly seen. I have been sitting with that thought this week, letting it linger in my heart, and I keep returning to a simple but profound question: Where do we first learn what belonging feels like? For mos

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A simple step that can change a life: slowing down.

Aloha Friends, In our last email, we shared that loneliness is not just something we are meant to recognize, but something we are invited to respond to, and if we are honest, that can feel like a heavy thought. You see, most of us have been conditioned to move quickly, not just through our schedules, but through conversations, responsibilities, and even the moments that feel uncomfortable or unclear. Even when we sense that something is not quite right in someone else, it can

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You Might Be the Answer to Someone’s Loneliness.

Aloha Friends, Over the past few weeks, we have been talking about loneliness, not just as a feeling, but as something much deeper. We have seen how loneliness can shape identity, influence behavior, and quietly open doors to things that bring more harm than healing. We have explored how it hides beneath words, relationships, and even the strongest outward appearances. And maybe along the way, you began to recognize something. Not just in others… but in yourself. Loneliness i

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How to love the rejected like Jesus did.

Aloha Friends, Can you recognize or discern the signs of rejection? Being someone who has experienced much rejection and shame in my life I think I am pretty good at recognizing the cues. But what do you do when you notice it? First, click here to get the sample phrases that reveal rejection and how to respond. Second, lean into this Jesus model below as a way to see transformation in the lives around you. Have a blessed Good Friday and Resurrection Sunday from all of us at

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Abandonment: These fears are foundational to this stronghold

Aloha Friends, In our last email we mentioned that we would explore the language of loneliness and how someone's words can reflect their struggle. Abandonment, rejection, and neglect are all traumatic experiences that shape our thoughts, words and actions. Today, we will take a look at abandonment. At its core, abandonment is a form of loneliness that develops when someone begins to believe they are not safe in relationships or not worthy of love. This is often a stronghold t

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Compulsive sexual behaviors are a symptom, not a root cause.

Aloha Friends, Connecting with God isn’t an easy task for all of us. Perhaps you read the practical activity in the last email to cultivate a deeper awareness of God by being in nature and felt unmoved. We are not offended by that at all. The reality is that our ability to perceive God is often connected to how we view Him, and that understanding is shaped in our early years. The relationships we have with parents or guardians, peers, and our community profoundly influence ho

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Do you see Him? Belonging begins with this one thing.

Aloha Friends, Sin had isolated us, but Jesus stepped into the mess and took on the punishment for our sin, thereby acquiring peace with God on our behalf. By His stripes we were all healed. (Isaiah 53:5). I grew up in a very close-knit extended family with many aunties and uncles. They all took turns caring for my brothers and I throughout our childhood as mom and dad worked. But despite all the family around me, I still found myself stranded on an island of my own. In today

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What not to say when someone expresses feelings of loneliness

Hey there friend! Loneliness is never an excuse to willfully sin against God, or our own body. We are not writing these emails to make a case in defense of someone who has made hurtful decisions because they felt lonely. Instead, these emails are meant to bring awareness and help us to be ready in season and out of season to testify of the hope that the lonely, rejected and abandoned can find in Jesus and the family of God. Consider this... After Jesus’ interaction with the S

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Groomers know how to exploit a lonely heart.

Aloha Friends, Did you know that loneliness and isolation have become such a serious public health issue that the U.S. Surgeon General has called it an epidemic? (Click here to read more) I would have never known if I had not looked it up myself. In that advisory, researchers explain that chronic loneliness is linked to increased risks of cardiovascular disease, dementia, depression, and premature death. Some studies even suggest that the physical impact of prolonged loneline

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Cultivating a Sense of Belonging for a Lonely Heart

Aloha Friends, From the well to the wilderness, Scripture reveals how deeply rejection can wound the human heart. Jesus met a Samaritan woman at a well in the middle of the day. She was most likely avoiding other women and their judgments about her life decisions. The New Testament writers do not offer much backstory about her or her life experiences. However, we can confidently say that Jesus knew everything there was to know about her, and He was not ashamed to speak wi

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Have We Been Doing Confession Wrong?

Aloha Friends, Have we been doing confession wrong? Pastors John and Rhonda Cabello of New Hope Collective, Kaua’i showed up to the Brave & Bold One-Night event with a powerful testimony and teaching. Pastor John shared something on confession that I have never heard. He said that, “confession isn’t just admitting the sin, it is agreeing with God about the sin”. I was so inspired that I did a short study and wanted to share it with you. In the Bible, the word for “confess” (h

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