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Celebrating What's Good About Being Male or Female




Aloha Friends,


It's easy to get caught up with the current culture when it comes to identity and we can hyper-focus on all that is wrong. Why don't we focus on what is good about being male or female? Here are some ideas to inspire young people to embrace their God-given identity with joy and confidence:


1. Highlight the Unique Strengths of Each Sex


Instead of defining male and female by cultural stereotypes, focus on the God-given strengths that each brings to the world.


  • For Boys: Emphasize their strength, courage, and ability to protect and lead with love. Talk about biblical figures like David, who was both a warrior and a poet, or Joseph, who led with wisdom and integrity. Show them that true masculinity is not about dominance but about responsibility, kindness, and using their strength for good.

  • For Girls: Celebrate their capacity for nurturing, resilience, and deep wisdom. Highlight women in the Bible like Esther, who showed incredible bravery, or Deborah, who led with wisdom and strength. Show them that femininity is powerful—not weak—and that being a woman is a unique gift from God.


2. Talk about how well both sexes complement each other.


Help kids see how men and women bring different but equally valuable qualities to the world. Share examples from nature (e.g., how male and female animals work together to raise young), history, and the Bible to illustrate how God designed both sexes to reflect different aspects of His character.


Genesis 2:18-24 shows the beauty of God’s design for men and women as complementary and equally valuable. When God created Eve as a helper (ezer) for Adam, it wasn’t a lesser role—the same word describes God as our helper (Psalm 33:20). Adam and Eve were intentionally different yet interdependent, reflecting unique aspects of God’s nature—men often embodying His strength and leadership, women His nurturing care and wisdom. Their distinct roles weren’t mistakes but part of God’s perfect plan, showing that embracing one’s God-given identity is a gift, not a limitation.


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3. Celebrate Real-Life Role Models


Introduce them to godly men and women who are thriving in their identities. This could be athletes, artists, missionaries, or family members who demonstrate the joy and purpose of living as a man or woman in Christ. Let them see role models they can relate to and admire.


4. Encourage Healthy Identity Exploration


Rather than making kids feel like they must fit into a narrow box of masculinity or femininity, encourage them to explore their unique gifts while still embracing their biological sex. For example:


  • A boy who enjoys art or cooking isn’t less masculine. He can reflect God’s creativity.

  • A girl who loves sports and adventure isn’t less feminine. She can reflect God’s strength.

  • Both boys and girls can be leaders, nurturers, thinkers, and creators in their own ways.

Help them see that their personality and interests don’t determine their gender—God does, and He doesn’t make mistakes.


5. Reinforce Their Worth in Christ


Before kids can embrace their identity as male or female, they need to understand their worth as God’s child. Regularly affirm:


  • You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).

  • God created you with purpose and intention.

  • You don’t have to prove yourself—your worth comes from Him.


6. Make It Fun!


Create positive experiences around being male or female:


  • Host a “Brave & Bold” day for boys with outdoor adventures, teamwork challenges, and lessons on godly leadership. Our Brave & Bold journals are perfect for this - get it HERE.

  • Have a “Brave & Beautiful” day for girls where they learn about confidence, kindness, and using their unique gifts to bless others. The Brave & Beautiful journals will help - get a copy HERE.

  • Encourage fathers to take sons on adventures and mothers to have special bonding moments with daughters to reinforce the joy of being who God created them to be.


7. Address Struggles with Compassion


For kids who feel discomfort with their birth sex, acknowledge their feelings without reinforcing confusion. Say things like:

  • “I know this is hard, and I love you no matter what. Let’s talk about what you’re feeling.”

  • “Your feelings are real, but they don’t define who you are. Let’s explore what God says about you.”

  • “You don’t have to have everything figured out today. God will help you see the beauty in how He made you.”


8. Root Everything in Love and Relationship


Kids will be more open to embracing their identity when they feel loved, heard, and valued. Build strong relationships with them, so they know they have a safe place to ask questions, express doubts, and receive guidance.


By focusing on what is good, beautiful, and meaningful about being male and female, we can inspire kids to embrace their God-given identity with confidence and joy—without shame, fear, or pressure to conform to cultural expectations.


We hope this helps inspire some great activities and conversation.


Would you like us to share some activity ideas that celebrate God's design for gender? Send a comment and let us know..

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